How many of us feel personal victimized by motherhood? Here I’m talking about the constant criticism we get day in and day out about how we aren’t doing it right, how we have to try harder, how we have to look a certain way, how our children should act, things we should and shouldn’t be doing with our kids…Let’s cut to the chase, the list is endless.
Now let’s think of how many times we as moms actually ask for help…..(crickets) don’t worry I’ll wait…
For so long, “asking for help” has been deemed a sign of weakness, for men, for women, for children; there’s such a negative connotation attached to it. Look where that’s gotten us, suicide rates have increased steadily over the last five years. Why?
Say it with me: “asking for help does not mean you are a failure”
Let that sink in a for a minute…
Now let’s chat. The “job” of a mother is absolutely endless (and a father’s too but we’ll let the gents talk about that), however, it’s not honored that way. It’s looked at like a “given” like that was our only purpose on this earth, was to have babies and just deal. Ok, so what if that were true…the world has CHANGED so much since day one. But it doesn’t seem like society has accepted that. We as mother’s are expected to do all of the mother duties plus all these other “duties” that are bestowed on women now. It’s ridiculous, oh and did I forget to mention, we aren’t allowed to complain about it.
Pardon me while I go scream into a pillow. We have to put an end to this. We have to be more vocal about the challenges women face with motherhood, we have to be more present with mental help awareness, we have to do better!
Mama, if you are too afraid to ask for help because you feel failure attached to it, DON’T BE AFRAID! Ask for help, those who love you, support you, and want to see you succeed are there for you. If someone offers to help you before you ask for help, take it! A genuine person will not offer to help if they truly don’t mean it.
Start talking about your challenges mama, no more suffering in silence. The more you talk about what is challenging you as a mom, or how your children are challenging you, etc. the more “help” you may get from others, but also the less weight you will be carrying on your shoulders because you think “ I need to figure this out on my own, everyone else seems to figure it out.” Stop comparing and start talking & asking for help.
I see you mama.
I am always available to talk, offer advice, be an ear for you to vent to, have your back, support you in anyway, be a friend, be someone you can confide your deepest secrets to, whatever you need, I’m here for you. Please do not feel like you are alone in this journey. For too long I felt completely alone in my mother hood journey, and getting to that deep place of darkness was scary and it started to effect my entire life. I didn’t talk, I didn’t ask for help, I put all the pressure on myself, and it consumed me whole.
You are so worthy and you are so far from failure