I met my husband in February of 2011 and at this point in his life he had an 18 month old and a 3 year old. Needless to say, I have had the pleasure of being their “step mom” for 11 years now. Why do you care about this information? Well, it’s because throughout this blog I proudly claim that I have 5 children.
My husband and I added 3 more of “ours” children to the bunch. In an “official” capacity, I have 2 step children and 3 biological children. But here’s the deal, I do not treat or parent my “step children” any different than my biological children. I have them on my mind 24/7, just as our “ours” children. Some people will take totally offense to me claiming the children as mine but that’s their choice. I do not try to take the place of their mother.
I am simply, another mother for them. Some people will say “bonus children” or they will simply say “step children” but personally, when I hear either of those, I tend to think the children are secluded and treated differently than the other children.
My two oldest children were in a joint visitation situation up until recently. Unfortunately, some traumatic events happened with their mother and we (my husband and I) now have full custody of the children. Meaning, I have five children all day, everyday, and I could not be more grateful for this life change.
We are a whole, a TRIBE is what we call ourselves. I have 5 children, because I would lay my life on the line for them day in and day out. They are my world, my purpose for working so hard at life. They are also my reason for grey hairs (but that’s a story for a different time). I know there are a lot of women out there that struggle with the label of “step” and I’m here to break that down. Being a non-biological parent is extremely difficult, in all honesty I would not recommend it. Even in the best of circumstances, it still has its challenges. I am here to help you through!